Deism Topics Requests

Do we, as Deists, achieve a better understanding of Deism (and what it stands for) with non-Deists, by engaging calmly and rationally - without directly attacking their beliefs - or by confronting them with our perceptions (our logic vs their faith) that lay bare their structural short-falls (as we see them) in rationality - while also supporting our argument by pointing out the obvious errors, manifold hypocricies and the often historically grotesque and deeply egregious travesties of their belief system(s)'s - as often perpetrated against their own members and humanity in general?

New to Desim - so I am curious as to other's thoughts.